Trustbringer

We all hate being alone for long periods of time. We need to interact with others, be heard by others, help others, and receive their help. The warm touch of another person is crucial to being human. We can’t love without someone to love, and we can’t learn without someone to learn from or someone that lets us know how we might be doing things wrong. We need people to survive in more ways than one.

All of this has been true since the dawn of mankind, but with coexisting with other people, we need to exercise extreme caution. People help each other as much as they hurt one another. Betrayal is one of the most brutal things we can experience. It can make us question our entire existence up to the point before we were hurt by someone we trusted. Trust is something we learn to give carefully, after long periods of studying others. It’s not simply won over. And even then spouses cheat on one another, siblings steal from each other, best friends throw each other under the bus all the time. Betrayal hinges on the fact that we need each other so much that we are willing to lower our guard again and again and again. To trust someone is to expose our weaknesses to the one person that can hurt us the most. I’m not a psychologist so I can’t possibly hope to understand how we do this. I know we need to trust, but how we can trust others is beyond me. All I know is that exposing our weaknesses to people we love and trusting them feels so good, that it might be worth the worst-case scenarios.